How to Make Friends Online Safely
Making friends online is an amazing way to meet people who share your interests, but safety should always come first. Whether you're new to social discovery apps or a pro, these tips will help you build genuine connections while keeping yourself safe.
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The 60-second safety checklist
Before you start chatting, run through this quick checklist. If you can't check all these boxes, pause and think twice.
- check_boxI haven't shared my full name, address, or school name.
- check_boxI haven't shared my phone number or other social handles yet.
- check_boxI know how to block and report users on this app.
- check_boxI'm chatting on a platform that has age verification or age separation.
- check_boxI trust my instincts—if something feels off, I'll stop.
- check_boxI'm not sending money or gift cards to anyone.
- check_boxI'm not succumbing to pressure to reply instantly.
- check_boxI haven't sent any photos I wouldn't want the whole world to see.
- check_boxI know I can leave a conversation at any time without guilt.
- check_boxI have a trusted adult I can talk to if things get weird.
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Golden rules of privacy
Your personal information is like currency—don't give it away for free. Once it's out there, you can't take it back.
- shieldKeep your location vague — Saying you're from "London" or "California" is fine. Giving your neighborhood or street is not.
- shieldProtect your school info — Never share your school name or mascot. It makes you too easy to find in real life.
- shieldGuard your contact details — Keep your phone number and other social handles private until you've built real trust over time.
- shieldPhotos tell a story — Be careful with photos that show landmarks, house numbers, or school uniforms in the background.
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Red flags to watch out for
Most people are nice, but some aren't. Watch out for these warning signs that someone might not be who they say they are:
- flagThey ask for money — Any request for money, gift cards, or financial help is a scam. Block and report immediately.
- flagThey want to move off-app fast — Scammers often try to get you to Snapchat, WhatsApp, or Instagram quickly to avoid being banned.
- flagThey pressure you — Real friends respect your boundaries. If someone pressures you for photos or info, they aren't a friend.
- flagTheir story doesn't add up — If their age, location, or details keep changing, they're likely lying.
- flagThey're overly romantic — Be wary of excessive compliments or romantic declarations early on. This is often a tactic called "love bombing."
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Thinking about meeting in real life?
Meeting an online friend in person is a big step. If you decide to do it, follow strict safety protocols:
- warningTake your time — Don't rush. Get to know them online for a long time first. Video chat can help verify they are real.
- warningPublic places only — Always meet in a busy public place like a coffee shop or mall. Never go to a private home or secluded area.
- warningTell someone — Always tell a parent or guardian where you're going, who you're meeting, and when you'll be back.
- warningBring a backup — Bring a friend or family member with you. There's safety in numbers.
- warningHave an exit plan — know how you're getting home and have a plan if you need to leave early.
Frequently asked questions
Trust your gut. Stop replying immediately. You don't owe anyone an explanation. Use the block and report features to protect yourself and others.
Be very careful. Never share photos that reveal your location (like street signs or school logos) or anything intimate. Remember, screenshots are forever.
There's no set time, but wait until you've established genuine trust. We recommend keeping conversations on the app where you have safety tools like blocking and reporting.
Look for inconsistencies. Do they have only one photo? Is their bio empty or generic? Do they refuse to video chat? These can be signs of a fake profile.
Apps like Zupp use age checks, but no system is perfect. Always be cautious. If someone seems much older or younger than they claim, trust your instincts and report them.
Don't engage. Take screenshots of the threats for evidence. Block the user immediately and report them to the app. Tell a trusted adult right away.
Absolutely! Many meaningful friendships exist entirely online. You can share support, interests, and laughs without ever meeting in person.
Visit our Safety Center for more resources. If you're in immediate danger, contact local law enforcement or a helpline in your country.
Be safe, have fun!
Ready to make some real friends in a safe environment? Download Zupp today.