How to Make Friends at a New School
Starting at a new school can feel overwhelming—new faces, new routines, and the pressure to fit in. But making friends doesn't have to be scary. This guide breaks down practical, low-pressure ways to make friends at a new school, whether it's your first week or you're still settling in.
The first-week plan
Your first week sets the tone. Here's a simple, realistic approach to get started without overwhelming yourself.
Observe and settle in
Focus on learning the layout of the school, finding your classes, and noticing who seems friendly. You don't have to talk to everyone right away—just get comfortable.
Start small conversations
Say hi to the person next to you in class or ask a simple question like 'What class do we have next?' Small interactions build familiarity over time.
Join something or sit with someone
Look for a club, activity, or group project to join. Or simply ask someone if you can sit with them at lunch. Most people are more welcoming than you expect.
Easy places to meet people
You don't have to force friendships. These are natural settings where connections happen organically.
Clubs and activities
Join a club that matches your interests—art, music, sports, gaming, debate, or anything else. You'll meet people who already share something in common with you.
Classes and study groups
Sitting near the same people every day creates familiarity. Ask a classmate for help with notes or offer to study together.
Lunch and break times
Lunch can feel awkward, but it's also a great chance to connect. Look for a table that seems welcoming or ask if you can join a group.
Group projects
When teachers assign group work, it's a built-in opportunity to talk to classmates you wouldn't otherwise approach.
Sports and PE
Physical activities naturally break down barriers. Team sports or gym class give you something to bond over.
The bus or walk to school
If you see the same people on your commute, a simple wave or conversation starter can lead to a friendship.
What to say: conversation starters
Not sure how to break the ice? Here are teen-safe conversation starters that work in school settings. For more tips, check out our full conversation guide.
How to join groups without it being awkward
Walking up to an established group can feel intimidating. Here are some practical scripts to make it easier.
Joining a lunch table
"Hey, is it cool if I sit here? I'm still figuring out where everyone hangs out."
💡 Most people will say yes. If they seem hesitant, thank them and try another table—no big deal.
Joining a conversation
"Sorry to jump in—are you talking about [topic]? I was just thinking about that."
💡 Wait for a natural pause and keep your entry brief. People appreciate genuine interest.
Joining a club or activity
"Hi, I'm interested in joining. Is there anything I should know before the next meeting?"
💡 Club members are usually excited to welcome new people—that's the whole point of a club.
Partnering up for class
"Hey, want to work together on this? I don't really know anyone yet."
💡 Being honest about being new often makes people more sympathetic and helpful.
If you're shy or anxious
Feeling nervous about making friends is completely normal. Here are some supportive strategies that might help.
1Start with one person
You don't need to befriend the whole school. Focus on connecting with just one person first. Quality matters more than quantity.
2Prepare a few conversation starters
Having a few go-to questions in mind can reduce anxiety. You don't have to improvise everything.
3Remember: everyone feels awkward sometimes
Even the most confident-looking people feel nervous in social situations. You're not alone in this.
4Take breaks when you need them
It's okay to spend some time alone during the day. You don't have to be social every single moment.
5Celebrate small wins
Said hi to someone? That counts. Sat at a new table? That's progress. Small steps add up.
6Be patient with yourself
Building friendships takes time. Don't expect instant best friends—let relationships develop naturally.
Online friends vs school friends
School isn't the only place to make friends. Online friendships can be just as meaningful—and sometimes easier to start if you're shy.
Online friends share your interests
Apps and communities let you connect with people who share specific hobbies or passions that might be rare at your school.
Less pressure, more time to think
Online conversations give you time to craft responses. There's less pressure to react instantly.
Both types of friends matter
School friends and online friends can both add value to your life. It's not one or the other—you can have both.
shieldIf you're making friends online, stay safe: keep personal information private, trust your instincts, and don't share your location or school name with strangers.
Stay safe while making friends
Whether online or at school, your safety matters. Here are some reminders:
- check_circleDon't share personal details like your address, phone number, or school name with people you just met.
- check_circleTrust your instincts—if someone makes you uncomfortable, it's okay to step back.
- check_circleTalk to a trusted adult if you're unsure about a situation or someone's behavior.
For more information, visit our Safety Center or read the Parent Guide.
Frequently asked questions
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